I was sitting beside Ibn Umar while we were awaiting the funeral of Umm Abban, daughter of Uthman. Amr bin Uthman was with him. Then Ibn Abbas came, led by a guide. I think he was told where Ibn Umar was, so he came and sat beside me, placing me between the two of them.Suddenly a sound of wailing came from the house, and Ibn Umar said, as if hinting to Amr that he should rise and stop them, "I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say, 'The deceased is tormented because of his family's weeping over him.'" Abdullah stated this without qualification.Ibn Abbas then said, "We were with the Commander of the Faithful, Umar bin Khattab. When we reached al-Bayda, he saw a man stopping in the shade of a tree. He said to me, 'Go and find out for me who that man is.' So I went, and it turned out to be Suhayb. I returned and said, 'You ordered me to find out who that was, and it is Suhayb.'He said, 'Tell him to join us.'I said, 'He has his family with him.'He said, 'Even if his family is with him.'"Ayub sometimes said, "Tell him to join us.""When we arrived back, it was not long before the Commander of the Faithful was struck down. Suhayb came in saying, 'Oh, my brother! Oh, my companion!' Umar said, 'Do you not know,' or 'have you not heard,'" Ayub said, or he said, "'do you not know, or have you not heard, that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "The deceased is tormented because of some of his family's weeping over him"?'" Abdullah related it without qualification, while Umar said "some of."So I got up and went to Ayesha and told her what Ibn Umar had said. She said, "No, by Allah, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ never said that the deceased is tormented because of anyone's weeping. Rather, he said, 'Allah increases the torment of the disbeliever because of his family's weeping over him.' Indeed, Allah is the One who "makes one laugh and makes one weep" [Najm 53:43], and "no bearer of burdens shall bear the burden of another" [Anam 6:164]."Ayub said, Ibn Abu Mulayka said, Qasim bin Muhammad told me, "When Ayesha was informed of what Umar and Ibn Umar said, she said, 'You are reporting to me from people who are neither liars nor being lied about, but hearing can err.'"
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كنت جالسا إلى جنب ابن عمر ونحن ننتظر جنازة أم أبان بنت عثمان وعنده عمرو بن عثمان فجاء ابن عباس يقوده قائد فأراه أخبره بمكان ابن عمر فجاء حتى جلس إلى جنبي فكنت بينهما فإذا صوت من الدار فقال ابن عمر كأنه يعرض على عمرو أن يقوم فينهاهم سمعت رسول الله ﷺ يقول إن الميت ليعذب ببكاء أهله قال فأرسلها عبد الله مرسلة فقال ابن عباس كنا مع أمير المؤمنين عمر بن الخطاب حتى إذا كنا بالبيداء إذا هو برجل نازل في ظل شجرة فقال لي اذهب فاعلم لي من ذاك الرجل فذهبت فإذا هو صهيب فرجعت إليه فقلت إنك أمرتني أن أعلم لك من ذاك وإنه صهيب قال مره فليلحق بنا فقلت إن معه أهله قال وإن كان معه أهله وربما قال أيوب مره فليلحق بنا فلما قدمنا لم يلبث أمير المؤمنين أن أصيب فجاء صهيب يقول وا أخاه وا صاحباه فقال عمر ألم تعلم أو لم تسمع قال أيوب أو قال أو لم تعلم أو لم تسمع أن رسول الله ﷺ قال إن الميت ليعذب ببعض بكاء أهله قال فأما عبد الله فأرسلها مرسلة وأما عمر فقال ببعض فقمت فدخلت على عائشة فحدثتها بما قال ابن عمر فقالت لا والله ما قاله رسول الله ﷺ قط إن الميت يعذب ببكاء أحد ولكنه قال إن الكافر يزيده الله ببكاء أهله عذابا وإن الله لهو {أضحك وأبكى} {ولا تزر وازرة وزر أخرى} قال أيوب قال ابن أبي مليكة حدثني القاسم بن محمد قال لما بلغ عائشة قول عمر وابن عمر قالت إنكم لتحدثوني عن غير كاذبين ولا مكذبين ولكن السمع يخطئ