A daughter of Uthman bin Affan died in Mecca, and we came to attend her funeral. Ibn Umar and Ibn Abbas were both present. I was sitting between them. I had sat next to one of them, then the other came and sat at my side.Abdullah bin Umar said to Amr bin Uthman, who was facing him, "Will you not forbid the weeping? For the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, 'The deceased is tormented by the weeping of his family over him.'"Ibn Abbas responded, "Umar used to say something similar." Then he related the following account.He said, "I was traveling back with Umar from Mecca, and when we reached al-Bayda, he saw a group of riders under the shade of a tree. He said, 'Go and see who these riders are.' I looked, and there was Suhayb. I informed Umar, and he said, 'Call him to me.' So I went back to Suhayb and said, 'Set out and catch up with the Commander of the Believers.'Later, when Umar was struck down, Suhayb came in weeping, saying, 'Alas, my brother! Alas, my companion!' Umar said, 'Suhayb, are you weeping for me, when the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "The deceased is tormented by some of the weeping of his family over him"?'"Ibn Abbas continued, "When Umar died, I mentioned this to Ayesha, and she said, 'May Allah have mercy on Umar. By Allah, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ never said that Allah torments the believer because of anyone's weeping. Rather, he said that Allah increases the punishment of the disbeliever because of the weeping of his family over him.'"Ayesha then said, "The Quran is enough for you, 'And no bearer of burdens shall bear the burden of another' [Anam 6:164]."At that, Ibn Abbas said, "And by Allah, 'It is He who makes one laugh and weep' [Najm 53:43]."Ibn Abu Mulayka said, "By Allah, Ibn Umar said nothing in response."
حدثنا محمد بن رافع وعبد بن حميد قال ابن رافع حدثنا عبد الرزاق أخبرنا ابن جريج أخبرني
توفيت ابنة لعثمان بن عفان بمكة قال فجئنا لنشهدها قال فحضرها ابن عمر وابن عباس قال وإني لجالس بينهما قال جلست إلى أحدهما ثم جاء الآخر فجلس إلى جنبي فقال عبد الله بن عمر لعمرو بن عثمان وهو مواجهه ألا تنهى عن البكاء فإن رسول الله ﷺ قال إن الميت ليعذب ببكاء أهله عليه فقال ابن عباس قد كان عمر يقول بعض ذلك ثم حدث فقال صدرت مع عمر من مكة حتى إذا كنا بالبيداء إذا هو بركب تحت ظل شجرة فقال اذهب فانظر من هؤلاء الركب فنظرت فإذا هو صهيب قال فأخبرته فقال ادعه لي قال فرجعت إلى صهيب فقلت ارتحل فالحق أمير المؤمنين فلما أن أصيب عمر دخل صهيب يبكي يقول وا أخاه وا صاحباه فقال عمر يا صهيب أتبكي علي وقد قال رسول الله ﷺ إن الميت يعذب ببعض بكاء أهله عليه فقال ابن عباس فلما مات عمر ذكرت ذلك لعائشة فقالت يرحم الله عمر لا والله ما حدث رسول الله ﷺ إن الله يعذب المؤمن ببكاء أحد ولكن قال إن الله يزيد الكافر عذابا ببكاء أهله عليه قال وقالت عائشة حسبكم القرآن {ولا تزر وازرة وزر أخرى} قال وقال ابن عباس عند ذلك والله {أضحك وأبكى} قال ابن أبي مليكة فوالله ما قال ابن عمر من شيء