Amra bint Abdul-Rahman reported,
She heard Ayesha, Umm Muiminin, say, when it was mentioned to her that Abdullah bin Umar was saying that the deceased is punished because of the weeping of his family,Ayesha said, "May Allah forgive Abu Abdul-Rahman. He has not lied, but he has forgotten or made a mistake. The Prophet ﷺ simply passed by a Jewish woman whose family was weeping over her, and he said, 'You are weeping over her, while she is being punished in her grave.'"
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Sahihعن عمرة بنت عبد الرحمن أنها أخبرت
أنها سمعت عائشة أم المؤمنين تقول: - وذكر لها أن عبد الله بن عمر يقول: إن الميت ليعذب ببكاء أهله فقالت عائشة: يغفر الله لأبي عبد الرحمن أما إنه لم يكذب. ولكنه نسي أو أخطأ، إنما مر النبي ﷺ بيهودية يبكي عليها أهلها فقال: إنكم لتبكون عليها، وإنها لتعذب في قبرها.
objection to Ibn Umar that the dead are punished for their family's weeping over them objection to Ibn Umar that the dead are punished for their family's weeping over themMalik narrated it in Janaiz (37), from Abdullah bin Abu Bakr, from his father, from Amra bint Abdul-Rahman, who mentioned it. Bukhari narrated it in Janaiz (1289), and Muslim in Janaiz (27/932), both through Malik bin Anas, except that Bukhari abridged it. In one version, the Prophet ﷺ passed by a Jewish man and said, "The deceased is being punished while his family weeps for him."