The Messenger of Allah ﷺ cursed the woman who scratches her face, the one who tears open her garment, and the one who cries out with wailing and laments of doom.
أن رسول الله ﷺ لعن الخامشة وجهها، والشاقة جيبها، والداعية بالويل والثبور.
Ibn Majah (1585) narrated it from Muhammad bin Jabir Muharibi and Muhammad bin Karama, who both said, "Abu Usama narrated to us, from Abdul-Rahman bin Yazid bin Jabir, from Makhul and Qasim, from Abu Umama," and he related the hadith. Its isnad is sahih, and Ibn Hibban (3156) also graded it sahih, narrating it by another route from Abu Usama with a similar isnad. Abu Usama is Hammad bin Usama Qurashi.Busiri said in Zawaid Ibn Majah, "This isnad is sahih. Muhammad bin Jabir was deemed reliable by Muhammad bin Abdullah Hadrami, Maslama Andalusi, and Dhahabi in Kashif, and the rest of the narrators in the isnad are reliable according to the standard of Muslim..."As for what was narrated about an old woman from the Ansar who was among those who gave the pledge of allegiance to the Prophet ﷺ, she said, "We came to him one day, and he took a pledge from us that we would not wail." The old woman said, "O Messenger of Allah, some people had comforted me over a calamity that befell me, and now a calamity has befallen them, and I want to comfort them in return." Then she stopped and gave him her pledge, saying, "This is the good conduct that Allah spoke of when He said, "and do not disobey you in what is right" [Mumtahanah 60:12]." This is daif. Imam Ahmad narrated it (16556) from Abu Saeed, "Umar bin Faruq narrated to us," who said, "Musab Ansari narrated to us," who said, "I met an old woman who was among those who gave the pledge of allegiance to the Prophet ﷺ," and he related the hadith.Musab is Ibn Nuh. Dhahabi mentioned him in Diwan Duafa (4139) among those named Musab, who are four, Musab bin Muthanna, Musab bin Nuh, Musab bin Kharija, and Musab Humayri. He said, "All four are unknown."Ibn Hajar gave his biography in Tajil (1043) and mentioned the story, saying, "Umar bin Faruq narrated from him." Abu Hatim said, "He is unknown." Ibn Hibban mentioned him in Thiqat. I say, but he mentioned him in the third generation, saying he used to narrate truncated reports, as if in his view he did not hear from the female companion mentioned. End of Ibn Hajar's statement.As for Haythami's statement in Majma (3/15), "Ahmad narrated it and its narrators are reliable," this relies on Ibn Hibban's endorsement of reliability. The old woman is Umm Atiya, and her story is sahih through a different isnad.Likewise, what was narrated about Muaz bin Jabal is not sahih, that when the Prophet ﷺ sent him to Yemen,
went out, with Muaz riding while the Messenger of Allah ﷺ walked alongside his mount, and he said, "O Muaz, you may not meet me again after this year of mine, and you will pass by my grave and my mosque." Muaz wept with grief at parting from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, so he said, "Do not weep, O Muaz, for weeping is from Satan."Bazzar narrated it in Kashf Astar (480) from Abbas bin Abdullah, "Abdul-Qudus bin Hajjaj narrated to us," "Safwan bin Amr narrated to us," from Rashid bin Saad, from Muaz bin Jabal, who related it.There is a break in the chain, for Rashid bin Saad never met Muaz bin Jabal. He has been described as one who frequently narrated without a direct chain, and he died in the year 108 AH, and did not even meet the younger companions, so how could he have met Muaz bin Jabal, who died in the year 18 AH?