Qays bin Bishr Taghlibi reported,

He reported from his father, who was a close companion of Abu Darda in Damascus, who said:There was a man in Damascus called Ibn Hanzaliyya who kept to himself and hardly spoke to anyone. He was constantly in prayer, and when he finished he would glorify, magnify, and declare the oneness of Allah until he returned to his family.One day he passed by us while we were sitting with Abu Darda, and Abu Darda said to him, "Give us a word that will benefit us and will not harm you."He said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ sent us out on a military expedition. When we returned, one of the men sat in a gathering where the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was present and said, 'So-and-so, if only you had seen so-and-so, when he struck and said, "Take this, I am the Ghifari lad!" What do you think of that?'Another replied, 'I think his reward has been wasted.'A third spoke up about it, until the Prophet ﷺ heard their voices and said, 'Rather, he is to be praised and rewarded.'"Abu Darda was so delighted by this that he nearly knelt on his knees, and he asked, "Did you yourself hear this from him repeatedly?"He answered, "Yes."Then he passed by us another day, and Abu Darda said, "Give us a word that will benefit us and will not harm you."He said, "I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say, 'What an excellent man Khuraym Asadi is, if only he would trim his hair and shorten his lower garment.'"When this reached Khuraym, he hurried, took a blade, trimmed his long hair, and raised his lower garment to the middle of his shins.His father said, "I went in to see Muawiya and saw a man with him on the couch whose hair was above his ears and whose garment came to the middle of his shins. I asked, 'Who is this?' They said, 'Khuraym Asadi.'"Then he passed by us another day, and Abu Darda said, "Give us a word that will benefit us and will not harm you."He said, "Yes. We were with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ when he said to us, 'You are coming to meet your brothers, so put your mounts and your clothing in good order, until you stand out among the people like a beauty mark. For Allah loves neither vulgarity nor affected coarseness.'"

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عن أبيه وكان جليسا لأبي الدرداء بدمشق قال كان بدمشق رجل يقال له ابن الحنظلية متوحدا لا يكاد يكلم أحدا إنما هو في صلاة فإذا فرغ يسبح ويكبر ويهلل حتى يرجع إلى أهله قال فمر علينا ذات يوم ونحن عند أبي الدرداء فقال له أبو الدرداء كلمة منك تنفعنا ولا تضرك قال بعثنا رسول الله ﷺ في سرية فلما أن قدمنا جلس رجل منهم في مجلس فيه رسول الله ﷺ وقال يا فلان لو رأيت فلانا طعن ثم قال خذها وأنا الغلام الغفاري فما ترى قال ما أراه إلا قد حبط أجره قال فتكلموا في ذلك حتى سمع النبي ﷺ أصواتهم فقال بل يحمد ويؤجر قال فسر بذلك أبو الدرداء حتى هم أن يجثو على ركبتيه فقال آنت سمعته مرارا قال نعم ثم مر علينا يوما آخر فقال أبو الدرداء كلمة تنفعنا ولا تضرك قال سمعت رسول الله ﷺ يقول نعم الرجل خريم الأسدي لو قص من شعره وقصر إزاره فبلغ ذلك خريما فعجل فأخذ الشفرة فقصر من جمته ورفع إزاره إلى أنصاف ساقيه قال أبي فدخلت على معاوية فرأيت رجلا معه على السرير شعره فوق أذنيه مؤتزرا إلى أنصاف ساقيه قلت من هذا قالوا خريم الأسدي قال ثم مر علينا يوما آخر فقال أبو الدرداء كلمة منك تنفعنا ولا تضرك قال نعم كنا مع رسول الله ﷺ فقال لنا إنكم قادمون على إخوانكم فأصلحوا رحالكم ولباسكم حتى تكونوا في الناس كأنكم شامة فإن الله عز وجل لا يحب الفحش ولا التفحش