Qays bin Bishr Taghlibi reported,

My father, who was a regular companion of Abu Darda, told me that there was a man in Damascus from among the companions of the Prophet ﷺ called Ibn al-Hanzaliyyah. He was a solitary man who rarely sat with people. He was constantly in prayer, and when he finished he would glorify and magnify Allah until he returned to his family.One day he passed by us while we were sitting with Abu Darda, and Abu Darda said to him, "Give us a word that will benefit us and not harm you."He said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ dispatched a military expedition. When it returned, one of the men came and sat in the gathering where the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was, and he said to a man beside him, 'If only you had seen us when we met the enemy. So-and-so charged forward and struck with his spear, saying, "Take that, I am the Ghifari lad!" What do you think of what he said?'The other replied, 'I think he has nullified his reward.'Another man heard this and said, 'I see no harm in that.'They began to argue until the Prophet ﷺ heard them and said, 'Glory be to Allah. There is no harm in his being praised and rewarded as well.'"I saw Abu Darda delighted at this. He kept lifting his head toward him and asking, "Did you yourself hear this from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ?"He would answer, "Yes."Abu Darda kept making him repeat it until I thought he would fall onto his knees.Then on another day he passed by us, and Abu Darda said to him, "Give us a word that will benefit us and not harm you."He said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to us, 'Spending on horses in the cause of Allah is like one who stretches out his hand giving charity without ever closing it.'"Then on another day he passed by us, and Abu Darda said to him, "Give us a word that will benefit us and not harm you."He said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, 'What an excellent man Khuraym al-Asadi is, were it not for the length of his hair and the trailing of his lower garment.'"This reached Khuraym, so he took a knife and cut his hair to the middle of his ears and raised his lower garment to the middle of his shins.My father told me, "Later I went in to see Muawiya, and there with him was an old man whose hair was above his ears and whose garment reached to his shins. I asked about him, and they said, 'This is Khuraym al-Asadi.'"Then on another day he passed by us while we were with Abu Darda, and Abu Darda said to him, "Give us a word that will benefit us and not harm you."He said, "I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say, 'You are coming to meet your brothers, so fix up your saddles and fix up your clothing, so that you may be like a beauty mark among the people. For Allah does not love coarse appearance or coarse behavior.'"

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أخبرني أبي وكان جليسا لأبي الدرداء قال كان بدمشق رجل من أصحاب النبي ﷺ يقال له ابن الحنظلية وكان رجلا متوحدا قلما يجالس الناس إنما هو في صلاة فإذا فرغ فإنما يسبح ويكبر حتى يأتي أهله فمر بنا يوما ونحن عند أبي الدرداء فقال له أبو الدرداء كلمة تنفعنا ولا تضرك قال بعث رسول الله ﷺ سرية فقدمت فجاء رجل منهم فجلس في المجلس الذي فيه رسول الله ﷺ فقال لرجل إلى جنبه لو رأيتنا حين التقينا نحن والعدو فحمل فلان فطعن فقال خذها وأنا الغلام الغفاري كيف ترى في قوله قال ما أراه إلا قد أبطل أجره فسمع ذلك آخر فقال ما أرى بذلك بأسا فتنازعا حتى سمع النبي ﷺ فقال سبحان الله لا بأس أن يحمد ويؤجر قال فرأيت أبا الدرداء سر بذلك وجعل يرفع رأسه إليه ويقول آنت سمعت ذلك من رسول الله ﷺ فيقول نعم فما زال يعيد عليه حتى إني لأقول ليبركن على ركبتيه قال ثم مر بنا يوما آخر فقال له أبو الدرداء كلمة تنفعنا ولا تضرك قال قال لنا رسول الله ﷺ إن النفقة على الخيل في سبيل الله كباسط يده بالصدقة لا يقبضها قال ثم مر بنا يوما آخر فقال له أبو الدرداء كلمة تنفعنا ولا تضرك فقال قال رسول الله ﷺ نعم الرجل خريم الأسدي لولا طول جمته وإسبال إزاره فبلغ ذلك خريما فجعل يأخذ شفرة يقطع بها شعره إلى أنصاف أذنيه ورفع إزاره إلى أنصاف ساقيه قال فأخبرني أبي قال دخلت بعد ذلك على معاوية فإذا عنده شيخ جمته فوق أذنيه ورداؤه إلى ساقيه فسألت عنه فقالوا هذا خريم الأسدي قال ثم مر بنا يوما آخر ونحن عند أبي الدرداء فقال له أبو الدرداء كلمة تنفعنا ولا تضرك فقال سمعت رسول الله ﷺ يقول إنكم قادمون على إخوانكم فأصلحوا رحالكم وأصلحوا لباسكم فإن الله عز وجل لا يحب الفحش ولا التفحش