When the news came of the deaths of Zayd bin Haritha, Jafar bin Abu Talib, and Abdullah bin Rawaha, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ sat down with grief visible on his face. I was watching through a crack in the door.A man came to him and said, "The women of Jafar's household are weeping."The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Go and tell them to stop."The man went, then returned and said, "I told them to stop, but they refused."He said, "Go and tell them to stop."So he went again, then came back and said, "I told them to stop, but they refused."He said, "Go and throw dust into their mouths."Ayesha said, I thought to myself, "May Allah humble that man's nose. By Allah, you have not left the Messenger of Allah ﷺ alone, and you are not going to do anything of the kind."
أخبرنا يونس بن عبد الأعلى قال حدثنا عبد الله بن وهب قال قال معاوية بن صالح وحدثني يحيى بن سعيد عن عمرة
لما أتى نعي زيد بن حارثة وجعفر بن أبي طالب وعبد الله بن رواحة جلس رسول الله ﷺ يعرف فيه الحزن وأنا أنظر من صئر الباب فجاءه رجل فقال إن نساء جعفر يبكين فقال رسول الله ﷺ انطلق فانههن فانطلق ثم جاء فقال قد نهيتهن فأبين أن ينتهين فقال انطلق فانههن فانطلق ثم جاء فقال قد نهيتهن فأبين أن ينتهين قال فانطلق فاحث في أفواههن التراب فقالت عائشة فقلت أرغم الله أنف الأبعد إنك والله ما تركت رسول الله ﷺ وما أنت بفاعل
Narrated by Muslim, Funerals, Chapter on the strict prohibition of wailing, Hadith 935, from the hadith of Ibn Wahb, and Bukhari, Funerals, Chapter on what is forbidden of wailing, crying, and rebuking that, Hadith 1305, from the hadith of Yahya bin Saeed Ansari through the same chain, and it is in Kubra, Hadith 1974.