I was the delegate of Banu Muntafiq, or among the delegation of Banu Muntafiq, to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. When we arrived to see the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, we did not find him at his home. Instead, we found Ayesha, Umm Muiminin. She ordered that a dish of khazirah be prepared for us, and it was made for us. Then we were brought a qina, though Qutayba did not say "the qina," and a qina is a tray containing dates.Then the Messenger of Allah ﷺ came and asked, "Have you been given anything, or has anything been ordered for you?"We said, "Yes, Messenger of Allah."While we were sitting with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, the shepherd drove his flock back to the pen, and with him was a newborn kid bleating.The Prophet ﷺ asked, "What did it bear, so-and-so?"The shepherd replied, "A young one."He said, "Then slaughter a sheep for us in its place." Then he said, "Do not think," and he did not say "Do not suppose," "that we slaughtered it on your account. We have a flock of a hundred and do not want it to increase. So whenever the shepherd has a newborn, we slaughter a sheep in its place."I said, "Messenger of Allah, I have a wife, and there is something in her tongue," meaning foul speech.He said, "Then divorce her."I said, "Messenger of Allah, she has been a long companion, and I have a child from her."He said, "Then admonish her," meaning give her counsel, "for if there is any good in her, she will respond. And do not beat your wife the way you would beat your slave girl."I said, "Messenger of Allah, tell me about ablution."He said, "Perform ablution thoroughly, run water between your fingers, and exaggerate in drawing water into the nose, unless you are fasting."
كنت وافد بني المنتفق، أو في وفد بني المنتفق إلى رسول الله ﷺ، قال: فلما قدمنا على رسول الله ﷺ فلم نصادفه في منزله، وصادفنا عائشة أم المؤمنين. قال: فأمرت لنا بخزيرة فصنعت لنا. قال: وأتينا بقناع، ولم يقل قتيبة: القناع، والقناع الطبق فيه تمر، ثم جاء رسول الله ﷺ فقال: هل أصبتم شيئا أو أمر لكم بشيء؟ قال: قلنا: نعم يا رسول الله قال: فبينا نحن مع رسول الله ﷺ جلوس إذ دفع الراعي غنمه إلى المراح ومعه سخلة تبعر، فقال: ما ولدت يا فلان قال: بهمة، قال: فاذبح لنا مكانها شاة ثم قال: لا تحسبن- ولم يقل: لا تحسبن- أنا من أجلك ذبحناها، لنا غنم مائة لا نريد أن تزيد فإذا ولد الراعي بهمة ذبحنا مكانها شاة قال: قلت: يا رسول الله، إن لي، امرأة، وإن في لسانها شيئا- يعني: البذاء- قال: فطلقها إذا قال: قلت: يا رسول الله إن لها صحبة ولي منها ولد. قال: فمرها-يقول: عظها- فإن يك فيها خير فستفعل، ولا تضرب ظعينتك كضربك أميتك فقلت: يا رسول الله، أخبرني عن الوضوء، قال: أسبغ الوضوء، وخلل بين الاصابع، وبالغ في الاستنشاق إلا أن تكون صائما.
Reported by Abu Dawud (142) at length, and this is his wording, and Tirmidhi (38), and Nasai (114), and Ibn Majah (407, 448) in brief. All of them narrate it from Ismail bin Kathir Abu Hashim Makki, from Aasim bin Laqeet, with this chain.In some of the narrations it reads, "When you perform wudu, rinse your mouth."Tirmidhi said, "Hasan sahih." Ibn Khuzayma (150) also graded it sahih, as did Ibn Hibban - al-Mawarid (159), and Hakim (1/147-148), who said, "Sahih."