Azami 6237

Bukhari narrated it in the Book of Marriage (5113) from Muhammad bin Salam, who said, "Ibn Fudayl narrated to us, Hisham bin Urwa narrated to us, from his father," and he mentioned it. Muslim narrated it in the Book of Suckling (1464/50) through another route from Hisham bin Urwa, without any mention of Khawla bint Hakeem in it.His saying, "turjee" (you may defer) means you postpone whichever of the women who offered themselves you wish. And his saying, "wa thunwa" (and you retain the choice) means you may accept whichever of them you wish and reject whichever you wish, and then whoever you have rejected you still have the choice concerning her afterward, so that if you wish you may return to her and take her in.Her saying, "your desire," means your pleasure, but jealousy made her say "your desire," because attributing desire to the Prophet ﷺ cannot be taken literally, since he does not speak out of desire nor act out of desire. It has been narrated from Ibn Abbas that he said, "There was no woman with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ who had offered herself to him," meaning that he ﷺ deferred them and did not accept them, even though it was lawful for him.The jurisprudence of this chapter is that a woman offering herself is a matter specific to the Prophet ﷺ, and without a dower, according to the word of Allah , "and a believing woman, if she offers herself to the Prophet, if the Prophet wishes to marry her, exclusively for you, not for the [other] believers" [Ahzab 33:50]. It is not permissible for anyone other than him that a woman offer herself without a dower, whether a specified one or the customary dower.Ibn Musayab said, "This offering is not lawful for anyone after the Prophet ﷺ. Had he married her for [merely] a whip, it would have been lawful." And from Tawus, he said, "It is not lawful for anyone to give his daughter [in marriage] without a dower except to the Prophet ﷺ."Ataa was asked about a woman who offered herself to a man, and he said, "It cannot be except with a dower." And likewise it has been narrated from more than one of the early scholars. Bayhaqi said, "The Prophet ﷺ is not to be followed in what was exclusively for him."