Ayesha was told that Abdullah bin Zubayr had said, regarding a sale or gift that Ayesha had given, "By Allah, Ayesha must stop, or I will place her under legal restriction."She asked, "Did he really say this?"They replied, "Yes."She said, "I make a vow to Allah that I will never speak to Ibn Zubayr again."When the estrangement grew long, Ibn Zubayr sought intercessors to plead with her, but she said, "No, by Allah, I will never accept anyone's intercession on his behalf, nor will I break my vow."When this became too much for Ibn Zubayr to bear, he spoke to Miswar bin Makhrama and Abdul-Rahman bin Aswad bin Abd Yaghuth, both from the clan of Banu Zuhra, and said to them, "I implore you by Allah to bring me into Ayesha's presence, for it is not permissible for her to vow to cut ties with me."So Miswar and Abdul-Rahman set out with him, wrapped in their cloaks, until they sought permission to enter upon Ayesha. They said, "Peace be upon you and the mercy of Allah and His blessings. May we enter?"Ayesha said, "Come in."They asked, "All of us?"She replied, "Yes, all of you come in," not knowing that Ibn Zubayr was with them.When they entered, Ibn Zubayr slipped behind the curtain, embraced Ayesha, and began imploring her and weeping. Miswar and Abdul-Rahman also began imploring her to speak with him and accept his apology, saying, "The Prophet ﷺ forbade what you know of estrangement, for it is not permissible for a Muslim to shun his brother for more than three nights."When they had pressed Ayesha hard with reminders and warnings about the sin of breaking ties, she began reminding them in return, weeping and saying, "I have made a vow, and a vow is a serious matter."They kept on with her until she finally spoke with Ibn Zubayr, and she freed forty slaves in expiation for that vow. Afterwards, she would remember her vow and weep until her tears soaked her veil.
أن عائشة حدثت أن عبد الله بن الزبير قال في بيع أو عطاء أعطته عائشة: والله لتنتهين عائشة أو لأحجرن عليها فقالت: أهو قال هذا؟ قالوا: نعم. قالت: هو الله على نذر أن لا أكلم ابن الزبير أبدا، فاستشفع ابن الزبير إليها حين طالت الهجرة، فقالت: لا والله، لا أشفع فيه أبدا، ولا أتحنث إلى نذري. فلما طال ذلك علي ابن الزبير كلم المسور بن مخرمة وعبد الرحمن بن الأسود بن عبد يغوث- وهما من بني زهرة-، وقال لهما: أنشدكما بالله لما أدخلتماني على عائشة؛ فإنها لا يحل لها أن تنذر قطيعتي، فأقبل به المسور وعبد الرحمن مشتملين بأرديتهما حتى استأذنا على عائشة، فقالا: السلام عليك ورحمة الله وبركاته، أندخل؟ قالت عائشة: ادخلوا قالوا: كلنا. قالت: نعم، ادخلوا كلكم، ولا تعلم أن معهما ابن الزبير، فلما دخلوا دخل ابن الزبير، الحجاب، فاعتنق عائشة، وطفق يناشدها، ويبكي، وطفق المسور وعبد الرحمن يناشدانها إلا ما كلمته، وقبلت منه، ويقولان: إن النبي ﷺ نهى عما قد علمت من الهجرة، فإنه لا يحل لمسلم أن يهجر أخاه فوق ثلاث ليال. فلما أكثروا على عائشة من التذكرة والتحريج طفقت تذكرهما، وتبكي، وتقول: إني نذرت والنذر شديد. فلم يزالا بها حتى النبي ﷺ كلمت ابن الزبير، وأعتقت في نذرها ذلك أربعين رقبة، وكانت تذكر نذرها بعد ذلك، فتبكي حتى تبل دموعها خمارها.
Bukhari narrated it in the Book of Manners (6073, 6074, 6075) from Abu Yaman, who said, Shuayb informed us, from Zuhri, who said, Awf bin Malik narrated to me, then he related it.In another version of his (3505), from Urwa bin Zubayr, who said, Abdullah bin Zubayr was the most beloved person to Ayesha after the Prophet ﷺ and Abu Bakr, and he was the most dutiful toward her of anyone. She would never keep anything that came to her from Allah's provision without giving it away in charity. Ibn Zubayr said, "Her hand ought to be restrained." She said, "Is my hand to be restrained? I vow, if I speak to him..." then he mentioned the rest of the hadith.This restriction placed on Ayesha was not appropriate, because she was not foolish. Her conduct was sound, and that is why she did not accept Ibn Zubayr's restriction, but instead insisted firmly that she would never speak to him again.