Whenever someone from her family died and the women gathered for the mourning and then dispersed, leaving only her family and close relatives, she would order a pot of talbinah to be cooked. Then tharid would be prepared and the talbinah poured over it. She would say, "Eat from it, for I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say, 'Talbinah soothes the heart of the sick person and takes away some of the sorrow.'"
أنها كانت إذا مات الميت من أهلها فاجتمع لذلك النساء، ثم تفرقن إلا أهلها وخاصتها، أمرت ببرمة من تلبينة فطبخت، ثم صنع ثريد فصبت التلبينة عليها، ثم قالت: كلن منها، فإني سمعت رسول الله ﷺ يقول: التلبينة مجمة لفؤاد المريض، تذهب ببعض الحزن.
Bukhari reported it in the Book of Foods (5417), and Muslim in the Book of Greetings (2216), both through the route of Layth bin Saad, who said, Aqeel bin Khalid narrated to me, from Ibn Shihab, from Urwa, from Ayesha, and she related it.Her saying, "talbinah", it is also said "talbin", is a broth made from flour or bran, sometimes with honey added to it. It was named this in likeness to milk (laban) because of its whiteness and thinness.Her saying, "mujimma", means restful, and jamam, with a kasrah on the jeem, means rest.There is no fixed time limit for offering condolences. Whenever it becomes possible for a person to do so, he may offer them, because the purpose of condolences is to pray for the deceased and to console the family. As for what has been reported, "there is no condolence beyond three days," I have found no basis for it.For more, see Minna Kubra (3/105-106).