I heard the Prophet ﷺ say, and he then mentioned the hadith in full, including, "Any Muslim man, or woman, who has three children of their own die before reaching the age of accountability, they will be a shield for him from the Fire."
سمعت النبي ﷺ يقول، فذكر الحديث بطوله وفيه: وأيما رجل مسلم قدم له في صلبه ثلاثا لم يبلغوا الحنث، أو امرأة، فهم له ستر من النار.
Abd bin Humayd narrated it in Al-Muntakhab (304), from Ahmad bin Yunus, from Abdul-Hameed bin Bahram, from Shahr bin Hawshab, who said, Abu Zubya told me that Shurahbil bin Simt summoned Amr bin Abasa Sulami and said, "Ibn Abasa, will you tell me a hadith you yourself heard from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, with no exaggeration and no falsehood in it, and not something someone else heard from him that you are merely passing on?" He said, "Yes. I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say..." and he mentioned several things.Imam Ahmad also narrated it (17023), from Rawh, who said, Abdul-Hameed bin Bahram narrated to us with his chain, except that he did not present the wording mentioned above, but rather presented a different wording for it, as well as a portion of the long hadith with this same chain. Its chain is hasan because of the discussion concerning Shahr bin Hawshab, for his hadith is hasan, and Ali bin Madini, Ahmad, Bukhari, and others held a favorable opinion of him.The hadith has other chains besides the one I have mentioned, though the one I mentioned is the soundest of them. Among them is what Imam Ahmad narrated (19437) from Hashim bin Qasim, who said, Faraj narrated to us, who said, Luqman narrated to us, from Abu Umama, from Amr bin Abasa Sulami, who said, "I said to him, 'Tell us a hadith you heard from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, with no diminishing and no error in it.'" He said, I heard him say, "Whoever has three children born to him in Islam who die before reaching puberty, Allah will admit him to Paradise by His mercy toward them. Whoever grays a single hair in the cause of Allah
will have it as light on the Day of Resurrection. Whoever shoots an arrow in the cause of Allah
that reaches the enemy, whether it hits or misses, it will count for him as the equivalent of freeing a slave. Whoever frees a believing slave, Allah will free from the Fire a limb of his own for every limb of that slave. And whoever spends a pair of something in the cause of Allah
, for Paradise has eight gates, and Allah
will admit him to Paradise through whichever gate He wishes."This chain contains Faraj, that is, Ibn Fadala bin Numan Tanukhi Shami. The people of knowledge are unanimous in declaring him daif, to the point that Ibn Hibban said, "He was among those who would invert chains of transmission and attach weak texts to sound chains. It is not permissible to rely on him." Al-Majruhin (862).Amr bin Abasa is Sulami, Abu Najeeh, also called Abu Shuayb. He accepted Islam early in Makkah, then returned to his own land and remained there until he emigrated after Khaybar but before the Conquest. He used to say, "I am the fourth person in Islam." Abu Umama asked him on what basis he claimed to be the fourth person in Islam. He said, "During the pre-Islamic era, I saw the people in misguidance, and I did not regard the idols as anything at all. Then I heard news about Makkah, so I rode until I arrived in Makkah, and there was the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, concealing himself, while his people were harshly against him. So I approached gently and went in to see him. I said, 'Who are you?' He said, 'A prophet of Allah.' I said, 'Did Allah send you?' He said, 'Yes.' I said, 'With what?' He said, 'That Allah alone be worshiped, with nothing associated with Him, that idols be broken, and that family ties be maintained.' I said, 'Who is with you in this?' He said, 'A free man and a slave.' And with him were Abu Bakr and Bilal. I said, 'I will follow you.' He said, 'You are not able to right now. Return to your people, and when you hear that I have prevailed, come and join me.' So I returned to my people, having already accepted Islam. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ then emigrated, and I kept seeking news until I came to him in Madinah. I said, 'Do you recognize me?' He said, 'Yes, you are the one who came to me in Makkah.' I said, 'Yes. Now teach me from what Allah has taught you.'"He then related the hadith at length, as Muslim recorded it in the Book of Prayer, and it has already been presented. Those who narrated from him include Ibn Masud, despite his own precedence, Abu Umama Bahili, and Sahl bin Saad, and among the successors, Shurahbil bin Simt, Sadan bin Abu Talha, Salim bin Amir, and others. It is said that he was among the companions who settled in Hims. See Al-Isaba (5/3).