Khawla bint Hakeem was among those women who offered themselves to the Prophet ﷺ.Ayesha remarked, "Does a woman feel no shame in offering herself to a man?"Then, when the verse was revealed, "You may defer any of them you wish" [Ahzab 33:51], Ayesha said, "Messenger of Allah, it seems to me that your Lord hastens to fulfill your wishes."
كانت خولة بنت حكيم من اللائي وهبن أنفسهن للنبي ﷺ، فقالت عائشة: أما تستحيي المرأة أن تهب نفسه اللرجل؟ فلما نزلت {ترجي من تشاء منهن} قلت: يا رسول الله! ما أرى ربك إلا يسارع في هواك.
Bukhari narrated it in the Book of Marriage (5113) from Muhammad bin Salam, who said, Ibn Fudayl narrated to us, Hisham bin Urwa narrated to us, from his father, and he related it. Muslim also narrated it in the Book of Suckling (1464/50) through another route from Hisham bin Urwa, but it does not mention Khawla bint Hakeem.As for Ayesha's statement, "Does a woman not feel shame to offer herself to a man?" this is normally an unseemly thing, and she said it out of the intensity of her jealousy toward her co-wives. But in the case of the Prophet ﷺ, it was something commendable, because of the greatness of his blessing and the nobility of his rank, for what woman would not wish to be a wife of the Prophet ﷺ in this world and the next?As for her other statement, "I see that your Lord only hastens to fulfill your desire," this too should be understood in light of the intensity of her jealousy, for otherwise attributing desire to the Prophet ﷺ would be far from fitting, given how greatly he is exalted and revered, and he is free from mere desire. So the meaning of "your desire" here is "your pleasure," since Ayesha was among those who greatly exalted and revered the Prophet ﷺ. Her statement is of the same kind as her saying, "I would never abandon your name."