Ayesha reported that a man asked permission to enter upon the Prophet ﷺ, and the Prophet ﷺ said, "Let him in. What a wretched member of his clan he is," or "What a wretched brother of his clan."But when the man came in, the Prophet ﷺ spoke gently to him.I said to him, "Messenger of Allah, you said what you said about him, then you spoke kindly to him?"He replied, "Ayesha, the worst of people in standing before Allah is the one whom people abandon, or avoid, to be safe from his vulgarity."
استأذن على النبي ﷺ رجل فقال: ائذنوا له، بئس ابن العشيرة، أو بئس أخو العشيرة فلما دخل ألان له الكلام، فقلت له: يا رسول الله، قلت ما قلت، ثم ألنت له في القول؟ فقال: أي عائشة! إن شر الناس منزلة عند الله من تركه- أو ودعه- الناس اتقاء فحشه.
Bukhari narrated it in al-Adab (6131), and Muslim in al-Birr wal-Silah (2591), both from Qutayba bin Saeed, who said, Sufyan narrated to us, from Ibn Munkadir, who narrated to him, from Urwa bin Zubayr, that Ayesha informed him, saying, and she mentioned it, and their wordings are the same.