Rabia reported,

Rabia reported, I used to serve the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. He said to me, "Rabia, why don't you marry?"I replied, "By Allah, Messenger of Allah, I do not wish to marry. I have nothing with which to support a wife, and I do not want anything to distract me from serving you."He turned away from me. I continued serving him as I had been, and then he said to me a second time, "Rabia, why don't you marry?"I said, "I do not wish to marry. I have nothing with which to support a wife, and I do not want anything to distract me from serving you."He turned away from me again. Then I reflected within myself and thought, "By Allah, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ knows better than I do what is good for me in this world and the next. By Allah, if he says to me again, 'Marry,' I will say, 'Yes, Messenger of Allah, command me as you wish.'"Then he said, "Rabia, why don't you marry?"I said, "Yes, command me as you wish."He said, "Go to the family of so-and-so," a clan of the Ansar who used to come and go to the Prophet ﷺ, "and tell them, 'The Messenger of Allah ﷺ has sent me to you, ordering you to marry me to so-and-so,'" naming a woman among them.So I went and said to them, "The Messenger of Allah has sent me to you, ordering you to marry me to so-and-so."They said, "Welcome to the Messenger of Allah, and welcome to the messenger of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. By Allah, the messenger of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ shall not return except with what he has come for." So they married me to her, treated me kindly, and did not even ask me for proof.Then I returned to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ sad. He said to me, "What is wrong with you, Rabia?"I said, "Messenger of Allah, I went to a noble people. They married me, honored me, treated me kindly, and did not ask me for proof, but I have no dowry."The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Burayda al-Aslami, gather for him the weight of a date-stone in gold."So they gathered for me the weight of a date-stone in gold. I took what they had gathered and brought it to the Prophet ﷺ. He said, "Take this to them and tell them, 'This is her dowry.'"I went to them and said, "This is her dowry." They were pleased with it and accepted it, saying, "It is plenty and good."Then I returned to the Prophet ﷺ sad. He said, "Rabia, why are you sad?"I said, "Messenger of Allah, I have never seen a more generous people. They were pleased with what I gave them and were gracious, saying, 'It is plenty and good.' But I have nothing with which to provide the wedding feast."He said, "Burayda, gather a sheep for him." So they gathered for me a great fat ram. Then the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to me, "Go to Ayesha and tell her to send the basket that contains the food."So I went to her and told her what the Messenger of Allah ﷺ had ordered me. She said, "Here is the basket. It contains nine measures of barley. By Allah, we have no food besides it for the morning. Take it."So I took it and brought it to the Prophet ﷺ and informed him of what Ayesha had said. He said, "Take this to them and tell them, 'Let this be made into bread for the morning.'"So I went to them, taking the ram with me, accompanied by some men from Aslam. I said, "Let this be made into bread, and this into a cooked dish."They said, "As for the bread, we will take care of that for you. As for the ram, you take care of it yourselves."So I and some men from Aslam took the ram, slaughtered it, skinned it, and cooked it. By morning we had bread and meat. I held the wedding feast and invited the Messenger of Allah ﷺ.Then he continued, The Messenger of Allah ﷺ gave me a piece of land, and Abu Bakr was also given a piece of land. Worldly affairs entered between us, and we disputed over a palm cluster. I said, "It is within my boundary," and Abu Bakr said, "It is within my boundary."Words passed between me and Abu Bakr, and Abu Bakr said something he disliked having said and regretted it. He said to me, "Rabia, say the like of it back to me so that we may be even."I said, "I will not do so."Abu Bakr said, "You shall say it, or I will seek the help of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ against you."I said, "I will not do it."He left the land and Abu Bakr set off to the Prophet ﷺ, and I followed behind him. Some men from Aslam came and said to me, "May Allah have mercy on Abu Bakr. For what reason should he seek the Messenger of Allah's help against you, when it was he who said to you what he said?"I replied, "Do you know who this is? This is Abu Bakr al-Siddiq. This is the second of the two. This is the elder of the Muslims. Beware, lest he turn around and see you supporting me against him and become angry, then come to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ who will be angered by his anger, and Allah will be angered by their anger, and Rabia will be destroyed."They said, "What do you tell us to do?"He said, "Go back."So Abu Bakr continued on to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and I followed him alone, until he came to the Prophet ﷺ and told him what had happened just as it occurred. The Prophet raised his head to me and said, "Rabia, what is between you and al-Siddiq?"I said, "Messenger of Allah, it was such and such. He said to me a word that he disliked having said and then said to me, 'Say the like of it back so that we may be even,' but I refused."The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Indeed, do not say it back to him, but say, 'May Allah forgive you, Abu Bakr.'"So I said, "May Allah forgive you, Abu Bakr."Hasan said, Then Abu Bakr turned away weeping.

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كنت أخدم رسول الله ﷺ، فقال: يا ربيعة ألا تزوج؟ قال: قلت: والله يا رسول الله، ما أريد أن أتزوج، ما عندي ما يقيم المرأة، وما أحب أن يشغلني عنك شيء، فأعرض عني، فخدمته ما خدمته، ثم قال لي الثانية: يا ربيعة ألا تزوج؟ فقلت: ما أريد أن أنزوج، ما عندي ما يقيم المرأة، وما أحب أن يشغلني عنك شيء، فأعرض عني، ثم رجعت إلى نفسي، فقلت: والله لرسول الله ﷺ بما يصلحني في الدنيا والآخرة أعلم مني، والله لئن قال: تزوج لأقولن: نعم يا رسول الله، مرني بما شئت، قال: فقال: يا ربيعة ألا تزوج؟ فقلت: بلى مرني بما شئت، قال: انطلق إلى آل فلان، حي من الأنصار، وكان فيهم تراح عن النبي ﷺ، فقل لهم: إن رسول الله ﷺ أرسلني إليكم يأمركم أن تزوجوني فلانة لامرأة منهم، فذهبت، فقلت لهم: إن رسول الله أرسلني إليكم، يأمركم أن تزوجوني فلانة، فقالوا: مرحبا برسول الله، وبرسول رسول الله ﷺ، والله لا يرجع رسول رسول الله ﷺ إلا بحاجته، فزوجوني، وألطفوني، وما سألوني البينة، فرجعت إلى رسول الله ﷺ حزينا، فقال لي: ما لك يا ربيعة؟ فقلت: يا رسول الله، أتيت قوما كراما، فزوجوني، وأكرموني، والطفوني، وما سألوني بينة، وليس عندي صداق، فقال رسول الله ﷺ: يا بريدة الأسلمي، اجمعوا له وزن نواة من ذهب، قال: فجمعوا لي وزن نواة من ذهب، فأخذت ما جمعوا لي، فأتيت به النبي ﷺ، فقال: اذهب بهذا إليهم، فقل هذا صداقها، فأتيتهم، فقلت: هذا صداقها، فرضوه، وقبلوه، وقالوا: كثير طيب، قال: ثم رجعت إلى النبي ﷺ حزينا، فقال: يا ربيعة ما لك حزين؟ فقلت: يا رسول الله، ما رأيت قوما أكرم منهم، رضوا بما آتيتهم، وأحسنوا، وقالوا: كثيرا طيبا، وليس عندي ما أولم قال: يا بريدة اجمعوا له شاة، قال: فجمعوا لي كبشا عظيما سمينا، فقال لي رسول الله ﷺ: اذهب إلى عائشة فقل لها فلتبعث بالمكتل الذي فيه الطعام قال: فأتيتها، فقلت لها ما أمرني به رسول الله ﷺ، فقالت: هذا المكتل فيه تسع أصع شعير، لا، والله إن أصبح لنا طعام غيره، خذه فأخذته، فأتيت به النبي ﷺ، وأخبرته ما قالت عائشة، فقال: اذهب بهذا إليهم فقل: ليصبح هذا عندكم خبزا فذهبت إليهم، وذهبت بالكبش، ومعي أناس من أسلم، فقال: ليصبح هذا عندكم خبزا وهذا طبيخا، فقالوا: أما الخبر فسنكفيكموه، وأما الكبش فاكفونا أنتم، فأخذنا الكبش أنا وأناس من أسلم، فذبحناه، وسلخناه، وطبخناه، فأصبح عندنا خبز ولحم، فأولمت، ودعوت رسول الله ﷺ. ثم قال: إن رسول الله ﷺ أعطاني أرضا، وأعطاني أبو بكر أرضا، وجاءت الدنيا، فاختلفنا في عذق نخلة، فقلت أنا: هي في حدي، وقال أبو بكر: هي في حدي، فكان بيني وبين أبي بكر كلام، فقال أبو بكر كلمة كرهها وندم، فقال لي: يا ربيعة رد علي مثلها حتى تكون قصاصا، قال: قلت لا أفعل، فقال أبو بكر: لتقولن أو لأستعدين عليك رسول الله ﷺ، فقلت: ما أنا بفاعل، قال: ورفض الأرض، وانطلق أبو بكر عليه السلام إلى النبي ﷺ، وانطلقت أتلوه، فجاء ناس من أسلم، فقالوا لي: رحم الله أبا بكر في أي شيء يستعدي عليك رسول الله ﷺ؟ وهو قال لك ما قال، فقلت: أتدرون ما هذا؟ هذا أبو بكر الصديق، هذا ثاني اثنين، وهذا ذو شيبة المسلمين، إياكم، لا يلتفت فيراكم تنصروني عليه فيغضب، فيأتي رسول الله ﷺ فيغضب لغضبه، فيغضب الله عز وجل لغضبهما، فيهلك ربيعة، قالوا: ما تأمرنا؟ قال: ارجعوا قال: فانطلق أبو بكر عليه السلام إلى رسول الله ﷺ فتبعته وحدي، حتى أتى النبي ﷺ فحدثه الحديث كما كان، فرفع إلي رأسه، فقال: يا ربيعة ما لك وللصديق؟ قلت: يا رسول الله كان كذا، كان كذا، قال لي كلمة كرهها، فقال لي: قل كما قلت حتى يكون قصاصا، فأبيت، فقال رسول الله ﷺ: أجل فلا ترد عليه ولكن قل: غفر الله لك يا أبا بكر، فقلت: غفر الله لك يا أبا بكر، قال الحسن: فولى أبو بكر عليه السلام وهو يبكي.