Rabia reported,

I used to serve the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. He said to me, "Rabia, why don't you get married?"I said, "By Allah, Messenger of Allah, I do not wish to marry. I have nothing to support a wife with, and I do not want anything to distract me from serving you." So he turned away from me.I continued serving him as before, then he said to me a second time, "Rabia, why don't you get married?"I said, "I do not wish to marry. I have nothing to support a wife with, and I do not want anything to distract me from serving you." So he turned away from me.Then I thought to myself, "By Allah, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ knows better than I do what is good for me in this world and the next. By Allah, if he says 'Marry' again, I will say, 'Yes, Messenger of Allah, command me with whatever you wish.'"He said, "Rabia, why don't you get married?"I said, "Yes, command me with whatever you wish."He said, "Go to the family of so-and-so," a clan of the Ansar who had been somewhat distant from the Prophet ﷺ, "and tell them, 'The Messenger of Allah ﷺ has sent me to you commanding you to marry me to so-and-so,'" a woman from among them.So I went and told them, "The Messenger of Allah has sent me to you commanding you to marry me to so-and-so."They said, "Welcome to the Messenger of Allah and to the messenger of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. By Allah, the messenger of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ shall not return except with what he came for." So they married me to her, treated me kindly, and did not even ask me for proof.I returned to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ saddened. He said to me, "What is wrong with you, Rabia?"I said, "Messenger of Allah, I came to a noble people. They married me to her, honored me, treated me kindly, and did not ask me for proof. But I have no dowry."The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Burayda al-Aslami, gather for him the weight of a date stone in gold." So they gathered for me the weight of a date stone in gold. I took what they gathered for me and brought it to the Prophet ﷺ.He said, "Take this to them and say, 'This is her dowry.'" So I went to them and said, "This is her dowry." They were pleased with it and accepted it, saying, "It is plenty and good."Then I returned to the Prophet ﷺ saddened.He said, "Rabia, why are you sad?"I said, "Messenger of Allah, I have never seen a more noble people. They were pleased with what I brought them, treated me well, and said, 'It is plenty and good.' But I have nothing for the wedding feast."He said, "Burayda, gather a sheep for him." So they gathered for me a large, fat ram. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to me, "Go to Ayesha and tell her to send the basket containing the food."So I went to her and told her what the Messenger of Allah ﷺ had ordered me to convey. She said, "Here is the basket. It contains nine measures of barley. By Allah, we have no other food for the morning. Take it." So I took it and brought it to the Prophet ﷺ and informed him of what Ayesha had said.He said, "Take this to them and say, 'Let this be made into bread for you in the morning.'" So I went to them, taking the ram with me, accompanied by some men from Aslam. I said, "Let this be made into bread for you, and this into a cooked dish."They said, "We will take care of the bread for you. As for the ram, you take care of it yourselves." So I and some men from Aslam took the ram, slaughtered it, skinned it, and cooked it. By morning we had bread and meat. I held the wedding feast and invited the Messenger of Allah ﷺ.Then he said, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ gave me a piece of land, and Abu Bakr also gave me a piece of land. Then worldly disputes arose between us over the cluster of a date palm. I said, "It is within my boundary," and Abu Bakr said, "It is within my boundary." Words were exchanged between me and Abu Bakr, and Abu Bakr said something he disliked having said and regretted it.He said to me, "Rabia, say the same back to me so it will be even."I said, "I will not do it."Abu Bakr said, "You will say it, or I will seek the Messenger of Allah's ﷺ help against you."I said, "I will not do it."He left the land and Abu Bakr set out to the Prophet ﷺ, and I went following him. Some men from Aslam came and said to me, "May Allah have mercy on Abu Bakr. For what is he seeking the Messenger of Allah's ﷺ help against you, when he was the one who said to you what he said?"I said, "Do you know who this is? This is Abu Bakr al-Siddiq. This is the second of the two. This is the elder of the Muslims. Beware lest he turn around and see you supporting me against him and become angry, then come to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ who will become angry on his behalf, then Allah will become angry at the anger of them both, and Rabia will perish."They said, "What do you command us to do?"He said, "Go back."Abu Bakr went on to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and I followed him alone until he came to the Prophet ﷺ and told him the story as it had happened. The Prophet raised his head to me and said, "Rabia, what is this between you and al-Siddiq?"I said, "Messenger of Allah, it was like this and like this. He said to me a word he disliked having said, then he said, 'Say the same as I said so it will be even,' but I refused."The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Indeed, do not say it back to him. Rather say, 'May Allah forgive you, Abu Bakr.'"So I said, "May Allah forgive you, Abu Bakr."al-Hasan said, Abu Bakr turned away weeping.

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عن ربيعة الأسلمي قال

كنت أخدم رسول الله ﷺ فقال يا ربيعة ألا تزوج قال قلت والله يا رسول الله ما أريد أن أتزوج ما عندي ما يقيم المرأة وما أحب أن يشغلني عنك شيء فأعرض عني فخدمته ما خدمته ثم قال لي الثانية يا ربيعة ألا تزوج فقلت ما أريد أن أتزوج ما عندي ما يقيم المرأة وما أحب أن يشغلني عنك شيء فأعرض عني ثم رجعت إلى نفسي فقلت والله لرسول الله ﷺ بما يصلحني في الدنيا والآخرة أعلم مني والله لئن قال تزوج لأقولن نعم يا رسول الله مرني بما شئت قال فقال يا ربيعة ألا تزوج فقلت بلى مرني بما شئت قال انطلق إلى آل فلان حي من الأنصار وكان فيهم تراخ عن النبي ﷺ فقل لهم إن رسول الله ﷺ أرسلني إليكم يأمركم أن تزوجوني فلانة لامرأة منهم فذهبت فقلت لهم إن رسول الله أرسلني إليكم يأمركم أن تزوجوني فلانة فقالوا مرحبا برسول الله وبرسول رسول الله ﷺ والله لا يرجع رسول رسول الله ﷺ إلا بحاجته فزوجوني وألطفوني وما سألوني البينة فرجعت إلى رسول الله ﷺ حزينا فقال لي ما لك يا ربيعة فقلت يا رسول الله أتيت قوما كراما فزوجوني وأكرموني وألطفوني وما سألوني بينة وليس عندي صداق فقال رسول الله ﷺ يا بريدة الأسلمي اجمعوا له وزن نواة من ذهب قال فجمعوا لي وزن نواة من ذهب فأخذت ما جمعوا لي فأتيت به النبي ﷺ فقال اذهب بهذا إليهم فقل هذا صداقها فأتيتهم فقلت هذا صداقها فرضوه وقبلوه وقالوا كثير طيب قال ثم رجعت إلى النبي ﷺ حزينا فقال يا ربيعة ما لك حزين فقلت يا رسول الله ما رأيت قوما أكرم منهم رضوا بما آتيتهم وأحسنوا وقالوا كثيرا طيبا وليس عندي ما أولم قال يا بريدة اجمعوا له شاة قال فجمعوا لي كبشا عظيما سمينا فقال لي رسول الله ﷺ اذهب إلى عائشة فقل لها فلتبعث بالمكتل الذي فيه الطعام قال فأتيتها فقلت لها ما أمرني به رسول الله ﷺ فقالت هذا المكتل فيه تسع آصع شعير لا والله إن أصبح لنا طعام غيره خذه فأخذته فأتيت به النبي ﷺ وأخبرته ما قالت عائشة فقال اذهب بهذا إليهم فقل ليصبح هذا عندكم خبزا فذهبت إليهم وذهبت بالكبش ومعي أناس من أسلم فقال ليصبح هذا عندكم خبزا وهذا طبيخا فقالوا أما الخبز فسنكفيكموه وأما الكبش فاكفونا أنتم فأخذنا الكبش أنا وأناس من أسلم فذبحناه وسلخناه وطبخناه فأصبح عندنا خبز ولحم فأولمت ودعوت رسول الله ﷺ ثم قال إن رسول الله ﷺ أعطاني أرضا وأعطاني أبو بكر أرضا وجاءت الدنيا فاختلفنا في عذق نخلة فقلت أنا هي في حدي وقال أبو بكر هي في حدي فكان بيني وبين أبي بكر كلام فقال أبو بكر كلمة كرهها وندم فقال لي يا ربيعة رد علي مثلها حتى تكون قصاصا قال قلت لا أفعل فقال أبو بكر لتقولن أو لأستعدين عليك رسول الله ﷺ فقلت ما أنا بفاعل قال ورفض الأرض وانطلق أبو بكر رضي الله عنه إلى النبي ﷺ وانطلقت أتلوه فجاء ناس من أسلم فقالوا لي رحم الله أبا بكر في أي شيء يستعدي عليك رسول الله ﷺ وهو قال لك ما قال فقلت أتدرون ما هذا هذا أبو بكر الصديق هذا ثاني اثنين وهذا ذو شيبة المسلمين إياكم لا يلتفت فيراكم تنصروني عليه فيغضب فيأتي رسول الله ﷺ فيغضب لغضبه فيغضب الله عز وجل لغضبهما فيهلك ربيعة قالوا ما تأمرنا قال ارجعوا قال فانطلق أبو بكر رضي الله عنه إلى رسول الله ﷺ فتبعته وحدي حتى أتى النبي ﷺ فحدثه الحديث كما كان فرفع إلي رأسه فقال يا ربيعة ما لك وللصديق قلت يا رسول الله كان كذا كان كذا قال لي كلمة كرهها فقال لي قل كما قلت حتى يكون قصاصا فأبيت فقال رسول الله ﷺ أجل فلا ترد عليه ولكن قل غفر الله لك يا أبا بكر فقلت غفر الله لك يا أبا بكر قال الحسن فولى أبو بكر رضي الله عنه وهو يبكي