Ibn al-Hanzaliyyah was a solitary man who rarely sat with people. He occupied himself with prayer, and when he finished, he would busy himself with glorifying and magnifying Allah until he returned to his family. He passed by us while we were sitting with Abu Darda, and Abu Darda said to him, "Tell us a word that will benefit us and not harm you."He said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ sent out an expedition. When it returned, one of the men came and sat in the gathering where the Messenger of Allah ﷺ used to sit. He said to a man beside him, 'If only you had seen us when we met the enemy. So-and-so charged forward, struck with his spear, and said, "Take that from me, I am the Ghifari youth!" What do you think of what he said?'The man replied, 'I think his reward has been nullified.'Another man heard this and said, 'I see no harm in it.'They disputed until the Messenger of Allah ﷺ heard them and said, 'Glory be to Allah. There is no harm in his being rewarded and praised at the same time.'"I saw that Abu Darda was delighted by this. He kept lifting his head toward him and saying, "You yourself heard this from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ?"He kept replying, "Yes."Abu Darda kept asking him to repeat it, until I thought he would kneel down on his knees before him.Then he passed by us another day, and Abu Darda said to him, "Tell us a word that will benefit us and not harm you."He said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to us, 'The one who spends on his horse is like the one who stretches out his hand in charity without ever withdrawing it.'"Then he passed by us another day, and Abu Darda said to him, "Tell us a word that will benefit us and not harm you."He said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to us, 'What an excellent man Khuraym al-Asadi is, were it not for the length of his hair and the trailing of his garment.'"When this reached Khuraym, he hastened to take a knife and cut his hair to his ears, and he raised his garment to the middle of his shins.Then he passed by us another day, and Abu Darda said to him, "Tell us a word that will benefit us and not harm you."He said, "I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say, 'You are about to meet your brothers, so put your mounts in good order and improve your dress so that you appear among the people like a beauty mark, for Allah does not love coarseness or vulgarity.'"
حدثنا هارون بن عبد الله حدثنا أبو عامر يعني عبد الملك بن عمرو حدثنا هشام بن سعد عن قيس بن بشر التغلبي قال أخبرني أبي وكان جليسا لأبي الدرداء قال كان بدمشق
له ابن الحنظلية وكان رجلا متوحدا قلما يجالس الناس إنما هو صلاة فإذا فرغ فإنما هو تسبيح وتكبير حتى يأتي أهله فمر بنا ونحن عند أبي الدرداء فقال له أبو الدرداء كلمة تنفعنا ولا تضرك قال بعث رسول الله ﷺ سرية فقدمت فجاء رجل منهم فجلس في المجلس الذي يجلس فيه رسول الله ﷺ فقال لرجل إلى جنبه لو رأيتنا حين التقينا نحن والعدو فحمل فلان فطعن فقال خذها مني وأنا الغلام الغفاري كيف ترى في قوله قال ما أراه إلا قد بطل أجره فسمع بذلك آخر فقال ما أرى بذلك بأسا فتنازعا حتى سمع رسول الله ﷺ فقال سبحان الله لا بأس أن يؤجر ويحمد فرأيت أبا الدرداء سر بذلك وجعل يرفع رأسه إليه ويقول أنت سمعت ذلك من رسول الله ﷺ فيقول نعم فما زال يعيد عليه حتى إني لأقول ليبركن على ركبتيه قال فمر بنا يوما آخر فقال له أبو الدرداء كلمة تنفعنا ولا تضرك قال قال لنا رسول الله ﷺ المنفق على الخيل كالباسط يده بالصدقة لا يقبضها ثم مر بنا يوما آخر فقال له أبو الدرداء كلمة تنفعنا ولا تضرك قال قال لنا رسول الله ﷺ نعم الرجل خريم الأسدي لولا طول جمته وإسبال إزاره فبلغ ذلك خريما فعجل فأخذ شفرة فقطع بها جمته إلى أذنيه ورفع إزاره إلى أنصاف ساقيه ثم مر بنا يوما آخر فقال له أبو الدرداء كلمة تنفعنا ولا تضرك فقال سمعت رسول الله ﷺ يقول إنكم قادمون على إخوانكم فأصلحوا رحالكم وأصلحوا لباسكم حتى تكونوا كأنكم شامة في الناس فإن الله لا يحب الفحش ولا التفحش