The Prophet ﷺ passed by a woman who was weeping at a grave. He said to her, "Fear Allah and be patient."She replied, "Leave me alone. You have not been struck by a calamity like mine." She did not recognize him.She was told, "That was the Prophet ﷺ." So she went to the Prophet's ﷺ door, where she found no doorkeepers, and said, "I did not recognize you."He said, "True patience is at the first blow."
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مر النبي ﷺ بامرأة تبكي عند قبر فقال اتقي الله واصبري قالت إليك عني فإنك لم تصب بمصيبتي ولم تعرفه فقيل لها إنه النبي ﷺ فأتت باب النبي ﷺ فلم تجد عنده بوابين فقالت لم أعرفك فقال إنما الصبر عند الصدمة الأولى