We were returning with the Prophet ﷺ from a military expedition, and I hurried ahead on a slow camel of mine. A rider came up behind me and prodded my camel with a spear-like stick he had with him, and my camel set off like the finest camel you have ever seen. There was the Prophet ﷺ, who asked, "What is your hurry?"I replied, "I am newly married."He asked, "To a virgin or a previously married woman?"I said, "A previously married woman."He said, "Why not a young girl, so you could play with her and she with you?"When we were about to enter Madinah, he said, "Wait until you enter at night, meaning in the evening, so that the woman with disheveled hair may comb it, and the one whose husband has been away may shave."
قفلنا مع النبي ﷺ من غزوة، فتعجلت على بعير لي قطوف، فلحقني راكب من خلفي، فنخس بعيري بعنزة كانت معه، فانطلق بعيري كأجود ما أنت راء من الإبل، فإذا النبي ﷺ فقال: ما يعجلك؟ قلت: كنت حديث عهد بعرس، قال: أبكرا أم ثيبا؟ قلت: ثيبا. قال: فهلا جارية تلاعبها وتلاعبك. قال: فلما ذهبنا لندخل قال: أمهلوا حتى تدخلوا ليلا- أي عشاء- لكي تمتشط الشعثة، وتستحد المغيبة.
Bukhari narrated it in the Book of Marriage (5079), and Muslim narrated it in the Book of Suckling (1466:57), both of them through Hushaym, who said, Sayyar told us, from Shaybi, from Jabir bin Abdullah, who said, then he mentioned it.His saying "qatuf" means slow-walking.His saying "the disheveled woman" refers to a woman whose hair is unkempt, meaning so that she may adorn herself for her husband.