When the news reached the Prophet ﷺ of the deaths of Ibn Haritha, Jafar, and Ibn Rawaha, he sat with grief visible upon him, and I was watching through the crack of the door.A man came to him and said, "The women of Jafar..." and mentioned their weeping. The Prophet ﷺ ordered him to forbid them, so he went off.Then the man came to him a second time, saying they had not obeyed him. The Prophet ﷺ said, "Forbid them."Then he came to him a third time and said, "By Allah, they have overwhelmed us, Messenger of Allah."She claimed that he then said, "Throw dust into their mouths."I said to myself, "May Allah rub your nose in the dirt. You did not carry out what the Messenger of Allah ﷺ commanded you, and you did not spare the Messenger of Allah ﷺ from distress."
لما جاء النبي ﷺ قتل ابن حارثة وجعفر وابن رواحة جلس يعرف فيه الحزن، وأنا أنظر من صائر الباب شق الباب، فأتاه رجل فقال: إن نساء جعفر- وذكر بكاءهن فأمره أن ينهاهن فذهب، ثم أتاه الثانية لم يطعنه، فقال: انهن فأتاه الثالثة قال: والله غلبننا يا رسول الله، فزعمت أنه قال: فاحت في أفواههن التراب فقلت: أرغم الله أنفك، لم تفعل ما أمرك رسول الله ﷺ، ولم تترك رسول الله ﷺ من العناء.
Bukhari narrated it in the Book of Funerals (1299), and Muslim in the Book of Funerals (935), both from Muhammad bin Muthanna, who said, Abdul-Wahhab narrated to us, who said, I heard Yahya bin Saeed say, Amrah informed me that she heard Ayesha say, and then he related it.In a version recorded by Muslim through another route, "and I have not left the Messenger of Allah ﷺ's expression of weariness."Her words, "throw dust into their mouths," come from the verb hatha yahthu, meaning to cast dust into their mouths. This command is meant as an emphatic rebuke of wailing, and a means of stopping it.Her word "al-ayy" means fatigue, carrying the same sense as "weariness" in the earlier wording.