A group of the Muhajirun and the Ansar disagreed about this matter. The Ansar said, "Bathing is only required when there is ejaculation or the emission of fluid."The Muhajirun said, "Rather, once there is intercourse, bathing becomes obligatory."Abu Musa said, "I will resolve this for you."So I got up and asked permission to enter upon Ayesha, and she granted me permission. I said to her, "Mother," or "Mother of the Believers, I want to ask you about something, but I feel shy before you."She said, "Do not be shy to ask me about anything you would have asked your own mother who bore you, for I am simply your mother."I asked, "What makes bathing obligatory?"She replied, "You have come to one who knows. The Messenger of Allah said, 'When he sits between her four limbs and the circumcised part touches the circumcised part, then bathing has become obligatory.'"
اختلف في ذلك رهط من المهاجرين والأنصار، فقال الأنصار: لا يجب الغسل إلا من الدفق أو من الماء، وقال المهاجرون بل إذا خالط فقد وجب الغسل. قال أبو موسى: فأنا اشفيكم من ذلك، فقمت فاستأذنت على عائشة، فأذن لي، فقلت لها: يا أماه!- أو يا أم المؤمنين!- إني أريد أن أسألك عن شيء، وإني أستخييك، فقالت: لا تستحي أن تسألني عما كنت سائلا عنه أمك التي ولدتك؛ فإنما أنا أمك. قلت: فما يوجب الغسل؟ قالت: على الخبير سقطت؛ قال رسول الله: إذا جلس بين شعبها الأربع، ومس الختان الختان فقد وجب الغسل.
Muslim (349) narrated it through multiple chains from Hisham bin Hassan, from Humayd bin Hilal, from Abu Burda, from Abu Musa, and he mentioned it. At the end of the chain it states, "I only know it from Abu Burda," which shows uncertainty about whether the chain is connected.Daraqutni said, "Sahih, gharib, Hisham bin Hassan narrated it alone from Humayd." I say, perhaps Bukhari refrained from including it for this reason.As for his saying, "when he sits between her four parts," it has been said that these are the two hands and the two legs, and it has also been said that they are her two legs and her two labia, and it has also been said her legs and thighs.As for his saying, "exerted himself with her," it comes from "jahadtuhu, ajhaduhu," meaning "I tired him out," and what is meant here is his intimate contact with her.