The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "You cannot satisfy people with your wealth, but you can win them over with a cheerful face and good character."
قال رسول الله ﷺ: إنكم لا تسعو االناس بأموالكم، ولكن ليسعهم منكم بسط الوجه وحسن الخلق.
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Bazzar (9651) narrated it, and Ibn Abu Dunya in Tawadu wa Khumul (190), both from Muhammad bin Abdullah bin Mubarak Makhrami, who said, Aswad bin Salim narrated to us, who said, Abdullah bin Idris narrated to us, from his father, from his grandfather, from Abu Hurairah, and he mentioned it. Bazzar said, "We do not know of anyone who narrated this hadith from Ibn Idris, from his father, from his grandfather, from Abu Hurairah, except Aswad bin Salim, who was a trustworthy Baghdadi." Its chain is hasan because of the grandfather of Abdullah bin Idris, namely Idris bin Yazid bin Abdul-Rahman, for his hadith is hasan. Ibn Madini said of him, "Trustworthy," and Hafiz declared it hasan in Fath al-Bari (10/459).Of similar meaning is what was narrated from Abu Dharr, who said, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to me, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed that will erase it, and treat people with good character." Tirmidhi (1987), Ahmad (21354), Hakim (1/54), and Darimi (2833) all narrated it from the hadith of Sufyan Thawri, from Habib bin Abu Thabit, from Maymun bin Abu Shabib, from Abu Dharr, who said, and he mentioned it. Tirmidhi said, "This is a hasan sahih hadith," though in other copies it reads "hasan" only, and that is more correct. Hakim said, "sahih according to the criteria of the two sheikhs," but Maymun bin Abu Shabib, who was Kufan and settled in Raqqa, is not among the narrators of the Sahihayn. Moreover, he did not hear from any of the companions, as Amr bin Ali said. Abu Hatim was asked whether Maymun bin Abu Shabib's narration from Abu Dharr was connected, and he said, "No."It was also narrated from Muaz bin Jabal, so Mahmud bin Ghaylan, the sheikh of Tirmidhi, said, "The correct version is the hadith of Abu Dharr, and in both cases there is a break in the chain. Maymun bin Abu Shabib had some negligence despite his righteousness, so perhaps he heard it from some righteous person and attributed it to the Prophet ﷺ."As for the hadith of Muaz bin Jabal, it is what Malik mentioned as an unconnected report in the book Husn Khuluq (1), that Muaz bin Jabal said, "The last thing the Messenger of Allah ﷺ advised me, as I put my foot in the stirrup, was that he said, 'Make your character good towards people, O Muaz bin Jabal.'" Malik narrated it in this way, as an unconnected report. Ibn Abdul-Barr said in Tamhid (24/300), "Yahya narrated this hadith in this way, and Ibn Qasim and Qanabi followed him in that. Ibn Bukayr narrated it from Malik, from Yahya bin Saeed, from Muaz bin Jabal, and even so it remains very disconnected, and it is not found with a connected chain going back to the Prophet ﷺ, neither in the hadith of Muaz nor anyone else, with this wording. And Allah knows best." Bazzar said, "I do not recall a connected chain on this going back to the Prophet ﷺ." End of quote.I say, Ibn Hibban (524), Hakim (1/54), and Tabarani in Kabir (20/58) all narrated it through the route of Harmala bin Imran Tujaybi, that Saeed bin Abu Saeed Mahri told him, from his father, from Abdullah bin Amr bin As, that Muaz bin Jabal wanted to travel and said, "O Prophet of Allah, advise me." He said, "Worship Allah, and do not associate anything with Him." He said, "O Prophet of Allah, give me more." He said, "When you do wrong, do good." He said, "O Messenger of Allah, give me more." He said, "Be steadfast, and let your character be good." The wording is Ibn Hibban's. Hakim said, "This is a hadith with a sahih chain, from the narration of the Basrans."I say, it contains Saeed bin Abu Saeed Mahri. Bukhari mentioned him in Tarikh al-Kabir (3/474), and Ibn Abu Hatim in Jarh wa Tadil (4/32), but neither of them mentioned any criticism or endorsement of him. Ibn Hibban mentioned him in Thiqat (3366), and listed only Usama bin Zayd and Harmala bin Imran among those who narrated from him. I did not find anyone who declared him trustworthy, so according to the rule of the hadith scholars he is of unknown status.So Ibn Abdul-Barr's statement that no connected chain to the Prophet ﷺ can be found for the hadith of Muaz bin Jabal, or for anyone else, with this wording, needs to be qualified, though the chain we have mentioned is itself daif. The variation in wording goes back to the narrators of the hadith, while the meaning is one.Of similar meaning is what was narrated from Anas bin Malik, who said, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ sent Muaz bin Jabal to Yemen and said, "O Muaz, fear Allah, treat people with good character, and if you do a bad deed, follow it with a good deed." He said, I said, "O Messenger of Allah, is 'there is no god but Allah' among the good deeds?" He said, "It is the greatest of the good deeds."Ibn Abdul-Barr narrated it (6/55) from Ali bin Ibrahim bin Ahmad bin Hamawiyah, by reading it to him, who said, Hasan bin Rashiq narrated to us, who said, Abu Abdullah Muhammad bin Hafs bin Umar Basri narrated to us, who said, Ubaydullah bin Muhammad bin Ayesha narrated to us, who said, Hammad bin Salama narrated to us, from Thabit, from Anas bin Malik, who said, and he mentioned it.Muhammad bin Hafs bin Umar Basri is among the narrators of Tajil. Husayni said, "There is some question about him," and no one declared him trustworthy except Ibn Hibban, who included his narration in his Sahih.