The Messenger of Allah ﷺ used to ask our permission, when it was the day of one of us wives, after the verse was revealed, "You may defer whom you will of them and take to yourself whom you will" [Ahzab 33:51].Muaza said, "I asked her, 'What did you used to say to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ?'"She replied, "I used to say, 'If the choice were mine, I would not prefer anyone over myself.'"
حدثنا يحيى بن معين ومحمد بن عيسى المعنى قالا حدثنا عباد بن عباد عن عاصم عن معاذة
كان رسول الله ﷺ يستأذننا إذا كان في يوم المرأة منا بعدما نزلت {ترجي من تشاء منهن وتؤوي إليك من تشاء} قالت معاذة فقلت لها ما كنت تقولين لرسول الله ﷺ قالت كنت أقول إن كان ذلك إلي لم أوثر أحدا على نفسي
Sourcing, Muslim narrated it in the Book of Divorce, chapter on the explanation that giving one's wife the choice does not constitute divorce unless intention is present, hadith 1476, from the hadith of Abbad bin Abbad, and Bukhari narrated it in the tafsir of Surah Ahzab, hadith 4789, from the hadith of Asim Ahwal through the same chain, and also from Abbad as a suspended narration.