The Messenger of Allah ﷺ asked me, "Have you married?"I replied, "Yes."He asked, "A virgin or a previously married woman?"I said, "A previously married woman."He said, "Why not a virgin, so you could play with her and she could play with you?"
حدثنا أحمد بن حنبل حدثنا أبو معاوية أخبرنا الأعمش عن سالم بن أبي الجعد
قال لي رسول الله ﷺ أتزوجت قلت نعم قال بكرا أم ثيبا فقلت ثيبا قال أفلا بكر تلاعبها وتلاعبك
[Sahih]. It is found in Musnad Ahmad: 3/314, and its basis is in Muslim, no. 111/715, after no. 599. The hadith has multiple chains.